It’s a pleasure to be able share with you all yet another interesting topic this week, I do hope you all are faring well. Last week we celebrated Mother’s day and I didn’t have a blog up until after the day, so I guess Happy Belated Mother’s day are in order.
We can never really fathom how much Mother’s go through to raise and take care of us as kids, until we have to actually take care of a child and then we begin to mentally imagine what our Mother’s went through. So I suppose everyone at least took some time out to show some appreciation for the thankless service that their Mothers have rendered for years. That been said, I have something really interesting I would like to harp on this week and it is about our internal dialogue. Believe it or not most of us spend a lot of time talking to or with ourselves for the most part of the day and many would like to term this “dialogue” as “thinking, reflection, strategizing, etc.” or maybe even mere soliloquizing. Well, hopefully this dialogue remains internal and not external, lest people may begin to wonder about the state of our mental health.
So how much internal dialogue do we really have daily? What do we really talk to ourselves about? How does our internal dialogue affect or influence our daily activities? Does negative internal dialogue affect us physically, mentally or even spiritually?
These are but a few questions I would like to answer here in this blog, to help my readers have a better feel of what this internal dialogue is all about. Without much ado, internal dialogues are those conversations we have in our “heads or mind” for which most of the part are known to us alone. These conversations may vary from our look on a particular day, to how someone spoke to us, to what our next lie of action will be at work, to our relationships, and so on and so forth. There is just one sticky part to this and that is the fact that whatever it is we are dialoguing about tends to generate a certain wave in ether and also affect us with a boomerang effect. Let’s say for example there is an employee at work that you do not like for some reason whatsoever and every day you see him/her, your internal dialogue is about hate speech, sooner or later these dialogues will manifest in your physical conversations with this co-worker. As the mind thinketh, so thus the mouth speak. The example above is very gross and easy to see and thus it might be somewhat easier to rectify, if we make conscious efforts to address our feelings towards the co-worker.
There are however internal dialogues that do not have an immediate reflection or boomerang effect on us like the above mentioned one, and those are problematic. A quick example will be an internal dialogue about our self-esteem. Let us imagine every day we have hours on end of internal dialogue about how we are not very sociable and how we lack interpersonal relationships, these dialogues come out in the cosmos and then we have the daily boomerang effect that we have low self-esteem, coming back at us in huge impact. Our internal dialogues do not remain in our heads as we wrongly think, they come out as subtle projections and then affects us on a deeper level. Many Positivity speakers and motivational gurus talk a lot about the power of being positive and being careful about the things we say, however the bottom line that many may forget to tell you is that positive thinking as the name implies comes from positive internal dialogues. This is why many people wonder as to why they seem to make a week’s progress after such workshops and seminars but before they realize they are back in their negative thought pattern. The answer to this mystery is because, even though they have learnt about the power of positive thinking at such seminars, they haven’t totally given up their “daily internal dialogue”, which most of the time is negative. Thus hey experience a little change during the short time they practice positive thinking then they have a relapse.
It may come as a surprise to some of you that our internal dialogue comes a lot from things we process physically. That is, if we are open to negative or low vibe externals, then we subconsciously transfer this to our internal dialogue. Have you ever caught yourself thinking about something you shouldn’t be thinking about and suddenly snap out of it with the feeling “where did that come from?” Usually many of us try to refocus the mind on something else, however a few may try to see where the thought process came from and often times if we track it far enough we see it was from an experience we had.
This is to say that if we are not fully conscious of our external choices then we hardly hope to have full control over our internal dialogue. The sad part about internal dialogue is that we have been conditioned for years, in a particular dialogue pattern and over the years we either solidify this patterns or re-create new patterns in our dialogue system. Thus breaking away from these dialogue patterns comes with a conscious and dedicated effort. It is not something we try for a week and hope it is fixed. We have to literarily be conscious of our internal dialogue day in day out, and we must choose to refuse any conversation that goes on in there. Now we may wonder whom do we actually talk to when we have these internal dialogues, at dialogues involve two people at least. When it is a dialogue we can hope that it is better because we are at least subconsciously participating, however when it is a monologue then it is a deeper system a lot more difficult to overcome. Why? The Mind is our dialogue partner and when it is a dialogue we can actually help it, but when it is a monologue, usually it has taken over and is just giving us instructions.
I would take a pause here so that we can digest these words and next week we can continue to deliberate on the subject on a deeper level. Till then, read, share and follow for more.