Black Panther; a spiritual perspective from the Ramayana

Dear readers,
I hope you are having a great day, it is a pleasure to be able to share with you all another blog today.
Many of you might have seen the movie Balck Panther which came out February this year and I know this is somewhat “late” nonetheless I felt I share some things which struck me about it. The movie had various open and hidden messages and I guess depending on what you are searching for, we cannot miss them. Seeing the global performance as the 9th highest grossing film of all time with a whopping sum of $1.34 Billion, I knew there had to be more to it than just the action.
Let us start from the very obvious one; the ritual combat between King T’challa and M’baku for the throne. Right after T’challa accepts the challenge, M’baku responds by saying “glory to Hanuman”. For those who know who Hanuman is, there isn’t much to be said but for those who don’t, I guess a little introduction is necessary. Hanuman is the son of the Wind-god born with half Man and half Monkey features. He is very powerful and helped Lord Rama (avatar of Vishnu) conquer Ravana in his attempt to retrieve his wife who was kidnapped by the latter. It is worthy to note that the Jabari tribe worshiped an “ape-god” from whom M’baku got his superhuman strength. Thus, it comes as no surprise when he gives glory to Hanuman whom he worships just before combat.
Also, just like the Epic Ramayana, when there was a dispute between Bali and Sugriva as to who would ascend the throne, Sugriva seeks refuge in the forest in fear of Bali after their misunderstanding. Similarly, in the Black Panther, M’baku’s tribe also leaves for the mountains after his clash with the King. Killmonger the villain of this story challenges king T’Challa to a ritual combat and wins, with this short victory he usurps the throne leaving the king for dead. The King is found in a river by someone from the Jabari tribe (who worship the monkey god). The king makes an allegiance with the head of the Ape warrior in order to get back his throne.
This is almost parallel to the Ramayan because Lord Rama loses his kingdom (gets banished) and then sought the help of an ape warrior (Sugriva) in order to get back his throne. In the Black Panther, King T’challa depends a lot on his sister Shuri, who is in charge of his weapons and self-defense mechanisms. In the Ramayana, Laxmana who is Lord Rama’s brother is a formidable fighter and was known to have taken out many great warriors during the war at Lank but most especially Indrajit the son of Ravana. Now one may wonder what the connection here is. Indrajit was said to have been blessed with so many Astras like the Brahmastra, Vaisnavastra, and Pasupatastra just to mention a few. Defeating someone with so many weapons would require a person of superior power.
In the battle at Lanka, Laxman was knocked out into a coma that left him almost lifeless and he was revived by a special herb the sanjivani, which was brought by Hanuman. In the Black Panther, when T’challa was thrown off the cliff by the Killmonger and left for dead, he was also revived by the heart-shaped plant which had special powers and could infuse whoever took it with superhuman strength and the power of the panther god. During the war at Lanka, Ravana’s brother Vibhisana leaves his brother’s camp and decides to join Rama’s camp, he then gives a lot of information about Ravana which helps Rama to eventually kill him. In the Black Panther, we see a parallel with the CIA agent Everett Ross who although working with the US government to investigate Wakanda and their Vibranium resource, eventually joins forces with T’Cahlla and gives him information about Killmonger. Agent Ross is also seen to have helped the warriors of Wakanda, take out those who were commissioned with supplying arms from Wakanda to the rest of the world. Just like Vibhisan, he switched sides and was quite helpful.
In the Ramayana, the killings and war are all about rescuing and regaining Sita; who is Lord Rama’s wife and the most valuable person in the Epic. She is none different from the goddess of fortune and as such having her makes one the richest person. Although the comparison is not equal from a spiritual perspective, however, we can see that the most valuable item that is been fought for is the Vibranium; which is the strongest metal and has a large variety of uses. This has made Wakanda a very rich and advanced nation. Thus, we see the battle to Lord over this precious item. Besides all these interesting similarities, the Black Panther is also laden with lessons just like the Ramayana and I’ll share a few.
A true warrior or Ksatriya would rather die than accept defeat or be humiliated, and we see this spirit in Killmonger who after he was stabbed in a fight with T’challa, had the option of been healed with the Technology in Wakanda but chose to die instead, knowing that recovery only meant a lifetime in prison for treason. He replies with the statement that he should be buried in the sea with his Ancestors who knew that death was better than bondage. It is also interesting to see how Lord Rama and King T’Challa; who were both superhuman, at some point in their lives hit rock bottom. They were without a Kingdom, they had lost practically everything but they survived because they had a few loyal friends and family around them.
In life, we would all hit rock bottom at some point and our recovery or ascent from there would be greatly influenced by those we surround ourselves with. Just as King T’Challa’s father said; “A King must surround himself with people he can trust”. Rama had Laxman by his side and then added the company of Hanuman, these two people were totally loyal to Rama. We see the Black Panther have his Sister and Fiancee, both of whom were also most loyal to him. Likewise, as we journey through life, we must also have people we can trust and have faith in. These people will be very beneficial in helping us whenever we hit our lowest points.
I hope you all enjoy this little comparison of the Ramayana and Black Panther, till next week do read, share and follow for more.


Beauty; in the eyes of the beholder?

Dear readers,
I am happy to be able to connect with you all today and I hope you all are faring well. Hope you all had an amazing Independence Day celebration (for those of you living in the States).
Recently I came across a rather funny video online showing women take off their makeups to reveal their real faces. Needless to say, I was both surprised at how much the make-up industry has evolved and also how far people can go just to conform to certain expected standards. Growing up as a kid, I can’t really remember seeing women with the level of makeup that there is now, maybe because I am not in a woman’s body or maybe because I just didn’t notice. As a teenager however, I remember that girls back then would have a lipstick on, some eyeliners and that was it. The narrative today is totally different, as you see teenagers giving tutorials on YouTube that can bring about total transformation of a person.
If we really want to understand the word beauty we probably have to define it. Now I am not talking about the regular definition of “beauty”; the aggregate of qualities in a person that gives pleasure to one’s senses. Externally this definition is what we are used to and it explains why many people are not comfortable in their own skin. When beauty is looked at from the bodily platform, then it is easy to get caught up with how we look, walk, talk, laugh, etc. When these qualities fit a particular standard that we aspire for or one that society dictates that we have then we say that “a person is beautiful”. The question that remains unanswered though is “what about the soul?”. We spend so much time trying to beautify the body while constantly neglecting the soul; the real reason the body functions in the first place. An allegory is given of how one is polishing a cage while refusing to feed the bird in the cage.
No matter how much gold or diamonds we use to decorate a cage, if the bird inside is not fed (or better still, let loose, back to where it belongs) then it would die for sure. The soul is eternal while the body is temporary, the soul never dies and only moves from body to body in a process called Reincarnation. Thus, one who has real knowledge of the “self” knows that while the body should be taken care of, we should not forget to give proper care also to the soul in the body. Let’s take a slight shift from the spiritual perspective to a rather metaphysical perspective. There is an African proverb that says “True beauty stems from a good character” (This is the closest translation I could give), however, I hope you get the idea of the message.
I guess most of us would rather prefer to have a partner/spouse/friend who has a rather average look but has a heart of gold than be with someone who is jaw-dropping gorgeous but has an appalling character. In fact, while most Men will notice a woman’s body at first glance, they would rather remember a woman with qualities that are pleasant and kind. Yes, no doubt people with certain physical attributes will most probably attract more attention than others, however, we all know that the reason why anyone would like to be with them is for how they look. Sooner or later, it is either they get tired of how you look and seek someone who is more beautiful, or they just hop on to the next beauty that surpasses yours (and there will always be someone more beautiful, no matter how beautiful we think we are). At this point, many of my readers may ask, so are you trying to say you would date an ugly person just because they have a “heart of gold?” Come on now be real! I get it and we naturally come to the physical aspect of this matter.
Beauty as they say is in the eyes of the beholder. A person might seem beautiful to you, while someone else thinks that they are just an average person. So, it is safe to say that we all judge or measure beauty, even externally in different shapes, forms or sizes. While one person admires men with six packs, another prefers men with a daddy-bod, someone thinks curvy women are beautiful, another begs to differ saying that slim women or athletic women are beautiful. The balance is always shifting according to different perspectives from different people. There is no “one size fits all” when it comes to beauty; even on the physical platform. Now having said that, why is there so much effort to make-up the body to fit in some general definition of beauty. Fake eyelashes, fake hair, fake lips, fake noses, fake hips and butts, fake teeth etc. The list could go on and on, but I feel you all get the idea.
If one has to correct a deformation from birth or an accident or a bodily trait that either makes movement difficult or gets in the way then it is understandable. When the goal is to “fit in” rather than to preserve, then that is where the misconstrued idea of beauty comes in. Now I know we live in times when matters like this could be very touchy and generally, people are of the opinion that we should all be allowed to do with our bodies as we please as far as we are not “hurting anyone”. While this may be true to an extent, the question is “why hurt yourself?”. Obviously, no one is going to stop you from trying to make-up your body to fit whatever standard of beauty you deem fit; however, it should not become a criterion for someone to love you or be with you. If you have to adjust the way you look for people to love you, then it will never be good enough. There will always be one fault or another in your body.
Invariably, the body will get old and at that point no matter how firm, solid, strong and fit it looked in its prime, there would always be an end to that. What doesn’t fade is a positive character, that will linger on no matter how old the body gets. Let us begin to use our free will to bring about an age of higher consciousness and vibes. Let us try to become vessels of love and compassion.
Till next week do read, share and follow for more.

What is Success?

Dear readers,
It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all today yet another blog. In a world where everything is fast-paced and on a constant increase, the measure of growth nowadays is almost solely measured by how much profit/ return/ wealth we are getting form any given endeavor. To the common Man, any endeavor that doesn’t translate directly into money or profits isn’t very successful.
So usually the question is asked time and time again; what is success? Is it the amount of money we have or make? Is it measured in the number of cars we own, or the private jets we fly in? Before I proceed to give a brilliant answer which we can deduct from a very ancient text called the Ramayana, allow me to clear some misconceptions. Money is not bad, in fact, a lack of it could be bad. The ability to have adequate resources to meet one’s daily requirement and also take care of family is a necessary need for everyone. This blog is not about demonizing money or making those who are rich feel uncomfortable, not at all. However, this blog is an attempt to clarify the common misconception that money is directly equal to success.
So, the story goes in the Ancient text of Valmiki, called the Ramayana, that after the demon Ravana was killed by Lord Rama; who is an avatar of Vishnu, the distressed wife of Ravana was in so much pain and anguish and she wanted to see the “human being” who had killed her husband. For those of you who are not quite familiar with the Ramayana, I’ll give a brief recap. Ravana, a great demon, and King kidnap the wife of a King (Rama) who is in exile from his kingdom, due to bad politics from a stepmother. His wife and brother accompany him and during their stay in the forest, Ravana kidnaps Rama’s wife. Rama seeks help from an army of half-human half-monkey soldiers and they attack the capital city of Ravana in Sri Lanka. They build a floating bridge of stones (which is still there to this day, and I have personally seen these stones float on water), to cross over to Lanka. There is a huge battle in which Ravana is killed and Rama’s wife; Sita is rescued.
After Ravana had been killed, Rama was sitting on a stone and the setting sun had cast a shadow of him on the floor. The wife of the late Ravana came running into the battlefield with the intention to insult the “Man” who had killed her mighty husband. As she was approaching, her shadow cast in front of her also approached Rama’s shadow. Without lifting his head up, Rama could see that the Shadow approaching was that of a Lady and so he moved aside so that his shadow wouldn’t “touch” hers. Seeing this act, she stopped in her tracks and thought; here is a Man who wouldn’t even let his shadow touch mine, and my husband had kidnapped his wife and held her in captivity for a long period. If he respects the possession of others to this extent that he won’t even want his shadow on someone else’s possession. At that point, she stopped and the initial rage she had which she had wanted to vent out in insults, subsided and turned into admiration.
Considering the time of this epic, there was a lot more culture among people and it may come off as strange to someone in the 21st century how avoiding shadows is a sign of respect? I get this and I’ll try to explain further. The underlining principle is how one balances one’s values with respect to wealth or money. It is mentioned in the same text that, a third-class person will sacrifice his values, integrity, and morals just to get money. A second-class person will sacrifice some of his values in order to get some type of wealth or reward, while a first-class person will never sacrifice his values for wealth. Thus, true success is how much of our values we can retain and uphold why trying to attain some level of material wealth etc. If after having achieved so much wealth, we are bereft of any values, then it is safe to say we have become morally bankrupt at the expense of material wealth.
Another interesting factor to consider is that money or wealth is based on numbers and numbers have no limit. So, if someone is trying to achieve happiness off a factor that is limitless in acquiring it, then we can somehow or the other see the attempt is futile. There will always be another figure we want to achieve in order to be happy. We have $1,000, then we strive for $10,000, when we get it, then we strive for $100,000, then we strive for $1,000,000. The race never ends. The proof is that hardly do we see any Millionaire or Billionaire who comes out and says; “Ok, Now I have made enough money, I want to stop and allow others to make some for themselves using my resources”. So, the question remains; What is success?
I can only offer a direction and allow you all run with the ball. Success is a state of an all-around sense of purpose and satisfaction gotten from living a life that gives us equilibrium in our mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, and material endeavors. This equilibrium comes about as a matter of a constant and conscious set of actions and choice, as opposed to a wishful thinking or happy go lucky attitude. That being said, success is not a destination but a journey. We should try to be successful at every point or stage in our lives as compared to waiting for a big break or grand finale of “success”. Having this idea of success at the back of our minds will help us see that material wealth is but one aspect of the equation of success. So just like a regular equation, if one component is balanced as opposed to the entire equation, the end result is still unbalanced.
I hope this meets you well and looking forward to sharing more blogs with you. Do read, share, and follow for more.

Catch them, Young

Dear readers,
It is a pleasure to be able to share with you yet another interesting blog today. I hope you all are faring well.
Today I’ll like us to look at the concept of early training and teaching good morals to kids. I recently had the chance to follow an online seminar on how to homeschool kids and needless to say, I learned a lot.
There were a lot of points discussed during the presentation, however, a couple of things were worthy of note. One very important factor to consider when dealing with kids is that; they do what you do and not what you say. The irony with this is that as adults we expect kids to do what we tell them and somehow think they will not see what we do. This is usually just wishful thinking, as often times than not, kids will do exactly what they see us do.

The concept of catching kids young is basically helping them to grow in various aspects of interest at a very early stage in life. when we try to inculcate good habits or qualities in our kids at an early age, there is a lesser tendency to rebel or refuse to adapt. We can also notice this principle in major disciplines like dance and athletics. Most ballet dancers start off when they are very young because, at that time, the body is soft and pliable. It is easier to get a 4-year-old girl to do splits than asking a 16-year-old. The same principle applies to other habits and qualities. When kids are able to assimilate the discipline required of them to excel at a particular endeavor, then it becomes second nature for them as they grow older.

Not only does it become second nature but because they have spent so much time practicing their art and craft, they naturally fulfill the principle of giving time and attention to become better. There is a saying that to become a Master at something one should do it 10,000 times, others say do it for 10,000 hours. In martial arts, it is said to practice a technique or a Kata at least 10,000 times before moving on to the next one. Of course, in our fast-paced world today, not many people follow this anymore, because everyone says “there is not enough time”.

When kids are introduced to healthy habits at a young age, then as they grow up cultivating those habits, they naturally put in the required hours/time it requires for them to be masters. Let’s say a young girl starts taking ballet classes at 4 and does twice every week, 3hours each session till she is 16. That is 12 years of practice and an approximate total of about 3456 hours. so Imagine how long it takes to get mastery
in good habits. That is barely one-third the 10,000 times mark. This is not to lay too much emphasis on the number of times kids engage in developing good habits, but a means to draw our attention to the fact that the earlier they start the better.
The other aspect of catching kids young is engagement. It is one thing to help them develop desirable qualities at a young age, it is another thing to show them by our actions and also engage in it with them.

If we want our kids to eat healthily and cut back on sweets and sugar, then we must endeavor to provide them and ourselves too with the kind of meal we expect them to eat. If we want our kids to exercise then it has a lot more impact when they see us in shape and keeping fit. If we want our kids to stay off drugs, alcohol, and intoxicants, we have to live a drug-free lifestyle too.
So basically we have to live whatever we preach to them. This principle also and most importantly applies to spirituality. Often times some parents would refuse to teach their kids spiritual practices in the name of allowing kids to make their own decision. The irony is that when this kids grow up and choose to not follow any specific spiritual path, the parents get upset and wonder what happened. The truth is kids are to be guided because they are too young to discern everything for themselves. If we have to help kids with their homework and clothes, things that are so physical, what makes us think they can somehow figure out the metaphysical and spiritual things on their own?
We have to teach them favorable spiritual practices, by our own example and this will go a long way to help them as adults. If they decide to follow another path of spirituality different from the one we showed them as kids, at least it would be from a position of strength and choice and not because they were empty inside and were cajoled into being a part of something. Often times, statistics show that kids who were brought up in a particular form of spirituality with parents who were actively involved, hardly ever strayed away from that part.
Why? because it became second nature.

The bottom line is; whatever good qualities we desire to see in our kids/child etc we need to help them develop it when they are young and flexible. The older they become, the harder it is to show or teach them.
Till next week, do read, share and follow for more.

Father’s Day

Dear readers

It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all yet another interesting blog today. I hope you all are faring well and having the best of summer time.

In the US and UK, yesterday was Father’s Day, I am not sure if it was in other parts of the world, nonetheless I’ll like to say Happy Father’s Day to all fathers out there and all potential fathers too. My post today is dedicated to my Father. Of course, it would be impossible to describe his qualities in one post but I shall try to do justice to it. I learnt a lot from my Father growing up and till today, I am still learning from him. There is no doubt that as an adult I may very well have a difference in opinion from him, and there are times when I feel that maybe my way is the best, still I admire his insights. There are a couple of words I’ll like to use to describe him, however please note that these are just but a few of his qualities.

Visionary: I marvel at his foresight and ability to see way beyond the present situation at hand in many circumstances. Most especially as one who served as a pioneer in an International society, it is pertinent to have people who know how to lead, can lead and can motivate people to work towards a goal. The ability to show people what is possible even when the circumstances at the now may not be very favorable.

Pioneering/Entrepreneurial: Not once, not twice, I have seen my father go to places where he had no connection, whatsoever, knew no one, and yet built what we can call an empire in record time. Not many people can do this. Sometimes I imagine what would have been the outcome if he had directed all this talent into pure profit. However, he is more of a selfless visionary, whose sole desire is to see others grow, not caring much about himself. Not only can he create new things, he also can sustain existing projects and make them into successful enterprises. One of his many projects is the Food relief initiative he has running now for close to 14 years in Africa. This initiative distributes food to the needy 6 days a week, serving at least 400-500 plates of freshly prepared Vegetarian/Vegan meal.

Determination: Back in the early 90’s my Dad went to a foreign country far away from home trying to salvage the situation of a failed project. He took a huge Bank loan to help purchase the building for a Temple at the time when the Interest rate in that country was the highest in the world. Even his spiritual Mentor was shocked at his guts. Not only did he repay every single dime plus interest in time, he also made that project an outstanding example for others in the region. His skill and qualities would later give him recognition with the President of the country. (I have decided not to mention the name of the country for safety reasons).

Public Speaker/ Excellent Writer: If anyone knows me personally and feel that I have some skill in public speaking and if you appreciate my writing either through my blogs or my book, then you can be relieved to know that I probably got some of these skills from my Dad. Of course, over the years, I have also put in practice and time to sharpen whatever skill I have in public speaking, and I still do to this very day. My Dad can talk himself out of any situation and when he writes, he can convince anyone. In my younger years, I can remember talking myself out of some very sticky situations and all the while just trying to use my dad’s wits to dazzle those whom I spoke with. When we both sit to discuss philosophy, I can bet you it is a display of wits at its finest. In fact, we could very well have a reality show of us doing this.

Intelligence: This is one quality that I’ll say he has on both sides of the spectrum. Some people are book wise but not life smart, and others are life smart but not book savvy. He is comfortably both. He encouraged me to get my Bachelors and Master’s Degree, but he also made me realize that life was a school of its own and in that school, degrees didn’t really count. As a teenager, he will tell me “If you can convince me with enough reasons why you want to do something, trust me I’ll let you do it. However, if you can’t then sorry it is not happening.” So, imagine a 16-year-old boy trying to outdo his Father at the battle of wits whenever he wanted to do something he knew he might not get permission for. No doubt, many times I’ll lose but it helped me sharpen my intellect a lot, so much so that in front of my peers, I was an intellectual force to reckon with.

My dad was so much of an intellectual that he used to tell me when I was a teenager, “I need to keep my brain active all the time”. This was his reply whenever I told him to rest after working so hard. Then his Asian friend taught him Chess, and from that day on, my Dad found another intellectual leisure for his brain. I can proudly say, he taught me how to play Chess and watching us play against one another is a spectacle to behold.

Hard Working: Despite his very intellectual nature, my dad is never afraid to get his hands dirty to get a job done. He believes in putting in the work, to make things work. In fact, people can call me anything but Lazy. Lazy is one description my Dad and I will never be given. He walks his talk and I try to do same. If we say something, be rest assured that we can do it.

No – Nonsense: When it was time to play, my Dad was a good team player, but when it was time for business, he meant it. To this day, I come off as a bit too serious for people of my age bracket and even older folks notice that my demeanor is way beyond my age. This is not a show or something to claim I am too good, but qualities I got from my dad. In other words, I have learnt from him that one should try as much as possible to reduce time for bullsh*t. If it doesn’t add value to my life, to other people’s lives, or at least create some positive impact then you won’t see us there.

Some of you might be “woow” your father must be a “Demigod”, well even though he doesn’t see himself like that I must say he just like any Man, has his short comings. Now the beauty of his short comings is that; I see what I must do to NOT get those too. Thus, even in his short comings, he is still teaching me a lot. Happy Father’s Day Pa, I am still trying to figure out this thing called life, I am not where I want to be ultimately however I have come a long way, and you have helped.

Till next week, do read, share and follow for more.

Racism; a skin disease.

Dear readers,

It is a great to be able to share with you all today yet another interesting blog. I hope you all are faring well.

Today I felt I harp on a subject matter that has been a delicate one ever since Man knew what his body looked like, one that has divided us all and caused some of the most horrific events in the history of Man’s existence on this planet. It is none other than racism; or should I say “skin disease”. Why do I call it the “skin disease”? Well soon enough we will find out. Before I start out allow me to indulge you in a little incidence that happened recently on Facebook.

This was a couple of day’s right after the Royal Wedding and a Facebook friend of mine; let’s call him Mark (not his real name), had shared a picture of the couple. A friend of his, a woman according to her profile, commented saying the wedding was a waste of money etc. I replied asking if she felt the same about Kate’s wedding or was it just because a person of colour (Meghan) was involved? In the series of replies that will follow our discussion she said “All black people are so conscious about their body colour…” I responded by asking her if she had interviewed every single black person on this planet before coming to such a conclusion. Later on she said “it was her opinion” not something based on any facts. Need I mention here that when she made the statement categorizing all black people, my Facebook friend Mark, liked it but didn’t comment.

As the discussion went on and I started to call her out for making such a general statement about people of colour, Mark replies to one of my comments saying “hey we are not this body, so play nice”. For those who do not understand what that means; basically Mark and I share a similar faith of Vaishnavism and we as most spiritual groups too believe that; the body is just a vehicle to the soul. The soul is the real essence in the body and as such one should not become attached to the body, rather one should focus on liberating the soul. This is a philosophy I have learnt, and I have been practicing since I was a kid. So Mark telling me this was somewhat like preaching to the choir. What I found surprising was, why he didn’t say this to his friend when she made an outright statement about people of colour? Yet he somehow found it necessary to tell me; who was just asking the lady in question as to how she came to such a conclusion.

In reply to his statement I asked him, why he didn’t correct his friend and how come he kept quiet until I made my statement. I asked him if he just consciously omitted it or it was just his “body” taking sides. (Mark and the Lady both happen to be Caucasians). I tried to comment on the post but noticed it was taken down, I check and yes you guess right Mark had “unfriend” me on Facebook. It was both funny and sad at the same time. It was funny because Mark is a guy who is in his 60’s if I am not mistaken and to see someone so “mature” act like that was really funny, on the other hand it showed the state of mind of Mark. He would rather unfriend someone who pointed out a gross statement made about people of colour instead of correcting the person who made the statement. On the brighter side, I was happy as I had one less bias person to deal with, on the other hand I was sad as I wish I could have impacted him better to help him.

What do we draw from all of this? I am not here to tell you that racism exists, you already know that. If you don’t then, maybe you haven’t witnessed it and to this I say bless your heart or maybe you are transcendental to things of this nature. What I really want to bring to our attention is that even those who practice one of the most philosophical religions on this planet, with the highest dissertation of the temporary nature of the body, can still be racists. In other words, your religion doesn’t make you a good person. You make yourself good/bad by your conscious actions. If Mark, my Facebook friend who has been practicing a religion that preaches the superior nature of the Soul to the body, can still be bias about the body then we can all see that bodily identification is a real “Skin disease”. To see another living being as black, white, red, yellow etc., is to see poorly. Those who cannot see past the hair, complexion or shape of a person are those inflicted deeply with the skin disease of bodily identification.

If you are not comfortable in your own body then it is certain that you will try to find fault about the body of other people. However when one knows that the body is just a vehicle that carries the soul in this material world, then he comes to the level of real knowledge and real vision. Hellen Keller once said; actual disability is to have sight but lack vision. The same can be said about those of us who still judge, relate and associate with people based on their body. I don’t care if you are Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Pagan, Atheist, Agnostic, etc. if you cannot get the basic idea that we are more than the physical body and as such making differences based on the body is a low mentality, then I think you might need to re-evaluate what you practice. People will hide behind many garbs to deceive others about their real stance but for how long can you do that.

Now reality flash: will racism stop? I don’t think so. For as far as we have a material body many people will continue to identify with it. At best we can help them see, but not let their nonsense become ours. Till next week do stay connected. Read, like, share and follow for more.

Marriage pt. 2

Dear readers,

I hope you all are faring well. It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all once again another interesting blog today. This is a continuation from last week’s blog.

The very mobile device, that replaced the landline telephone of many decades, was envisioned to be a device that would bridge the distance between couples who had to live separately continuously due to work. In as much as it has done some good, the same device has now become a third partner in many relationships. Many people spend more time with their phones than they do with their partners. In relationships where the mobile device hasn’t become the third partner, it has helped to find a third partner for spouse’s who are unfaithful. If we must succeed in our relationships then we must place first things first. We must see that if it has to work then it depends on us. We must be as accommodating as possible and as tolerant as we can be, as if we had a huge cash price to win at the end of every year we made it together. Of course this doesn’t mean we should be in an abusive relationship and turn deaf ears to advice asking us to seek help.

Truth be told, many relationships that end up been abusive could have been avoided, if only the people involved had paid attention to the signs. There are always signs from which we can tell how a relationship will be. We often choose not to pay attention to them. This is because in today’s society of constant cutthroat competition, many people want to get married just so that they can be off the single club. To many people, marriage is just an opportunity to show off our engagement rings or throw a lavish wedding party to impress people who we don’t even care about. Again, some people want to get married but very few actually want to stay married. I usually say this a lot and with each passing day, I am beginning to realize it even more.  When we look at the lives of women in the past and the kind of sacrifices they made for love or for a spouse, and then we look at what we have today, it is sad. No doubt, the same thing can be said of Men too. Chivalry is almost dead, and being gentlemanly is no longer a thing. Women were modest, bashful, and soft-spoken, sex was intimate and pure.

Today Men are weak, chivalry is seen as been less of a Man, and Men who actually are Gentlemen are seen as “too nice”. Women complain of a lack of real Men but also ignore these Men and run after low class Men because they seek “spontaneity” or even openly admit to liking Men who are “bad”. Thus we have a whole generation growing up and thinking it is cool to be bad. Soft-spoken and bashful women are seen as weak and loud bad mouthed women are seen as the epitome of women liberation. Sex is a game and the more partners you have, the more proficient you are at it. Men who refuse to make sexual advances as a sign of respect to women are seen by some women as “slow, weak, and less of a Man”, while Men who jump from one woman to another are described as “studs”. Women who are chaste and faithful to one partner are seen as boring and those who post the most explicit things about their bodies online are described as real and down to earth.

Professions that many of our grandparents would cringe at and keep their daughters (our mothers today) away from, are the same professions we as a generation are celebrating and even encouraging our daughters to go into. Men who earn a honest living doing legal jobs are described as low budget Men and those who engage in nefarious ways with shady deals, are praised as the real MVP. Men who save money for a better future and who believe in moderation and delayed gratification in other to build a secure future are not given a chance, because there are many big spenders in the club “making it rain”. The most heart-wrenching part of it all is that, the very few Men and Women who still believe in Love, hard work, commitment and decency are been ridiculed and many of them who lack the tough skin are slowly giving in to the modern day norm.

If marriages are failing today more than ever, we are the cause! We are responsible for all of it. If we have more single mothers and fathers today more than ever, we are the cause and we are responsible. If we have more divorce cases today than before, we are the cause and we are all responsible; Men and Women alike. The good part is we can also be the solution. We can gradually take back what we once had and reinstate it in a place of admiration. Couples with strong long lasting marriages should be idolized and be the ones we make trend on social media, not those who have no sense of decency whatsoever. Men of substance and good standing should be followed, not those who possess empty form and no substance. Women who know what it is to be a real woman and who stand by their husbands should be glorified and not those who swing from Man to Man as if there was a reward for it.

The solution is simple for those who are simple minded, and complex for those who are complex minded. If Love is important to both partners, then they will find a way to make it work even in our crazy world. When we want something we will find a way despite the odds and make a reason to continue, when we don’t then we will find an excuse despite the possibilities.

Till next week, do read, share and follow for more.

Marriage pt. 1

Dear readers,

It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all another blog today, I hope you all had a relaxing weekend.

In the light of the Royal Wedding that took place on Saturday, I felt I should say a few words on the topic of Marriage. There is no doubt that this is one of the most powerful institutions in the human society, with a lot of power to heal and foster love and growth. However just like a double edge sword, it also has the power to foster hate and dire consequences when abused.

Love is a beautiful thing and of course many people will be in Love at some point in time of their life. While some may find Love early, others might have to wait a little longer, some may either not find it or choose not to, while a select few may decide to seek a higher sense of Love or connection with the Divine. Whatever the circumstances are that you find yourself in, if at any point in time you decide to dedicate your lifetime to one person in holy matrimony, then you are most welcome to join me today as we discuss about marriage. When two people are legally and formally recognized to be in union in a personal relationship, they are said to be married. There is a Million dollar industry built around this institution. From dresses, to cakes, to bridal makeovers, to bachelorettes, and event planning etc. many people can easily get swamped about the D-day, and even forget that there is a day right after.

If you happen to be a Royal like Prince Harry, then imagine how much more detail, effort, money, resources and time that will be put into planning your wedding. What you do not want to happen is to fail at the marriage, after spending so much of your time and resources in planning a wedding. Many a times, people succeed at mesmerizing the guests at the wedding but then go on to fail at the marriage. Don’t get me wrong, simple weddings fail too. The lavishness or simplicity of your wedding is NOT the determining factor of the longevity of your marriage. There are various reasons why many marriages fail; money, infidelity, sexual incompatibility/lack of it, communication breakdowns, just to mention a few. These factors are potentially lurking in every marriage if couples are not willing to go the extra mile to make the marriage work. We can easily get lost in the topic of marriage, however what most people fail to see is that there is a phase before the marriage; and if ignored it could spell trouble.

Courting or dating as it is commonly referred to nowadays, is an opportunity to study a prospective spouse. It is meant to provide the intending couple a pressure free time to actually get to know each other well beyond the make perfect look of a first date. While there is no definite period for courting or dating before moving to a more committed phase, in average many couples court/date for about 18-25 months before actually tying the knots. Of course there are many others who court/date for a lesser period of time and have gone on to have long lasting marriages, it is usually advised that intending couples should date longer so as to avoid making a life-long mistake from hasty decisions. Today courting has gone through a whole lot of transformation and it isn’t what it used to be in the past. There seems to be a lot more focus on the physical aspect of the relationship (not to say it is not important), than on the emotional and psychological aspect of it.

Ideally we should only marry once, and get it right the first time. Sadly, this is not the case for the majority who have to try at it a couple of times, before they can get it right (if they actually do). A common denominator that many marriages have today, which seems to be like a modern day plus, is the “escape clause” called divorce. In reality, this is more of a problem than it is of an escape route. Many marriages end at first fight just because people feel they have an option or that they deserve better. More like love at first sight and divorce at first fight. It is not wrong to want something good for yourself, and try to get it. It is also possible that no matter how long we date and try to know someone, there will always be some things we never saw coming. Nevertheless, I personally feel that Marriages today have lost that spark called “doing everything to make it work”. Sometimes I feel if couples at their wedding were told that if they could make the marriage work for 30 years, with as little quarrels as possible and absolutely no divorce that they would win a whooping sum of say $20 Million; many marriages would go pass the 30 year mark. Now some of you may argue that; “well it is not genuine then because they are just trying to win the money”.

The truth is that in such a scenario, many couples will become a lot more tolerant, selfless, and accommodating, because they know there is a lot of money at stake. What beats me hollow is that there seems to be nothing at stake now, hence no one wants to put in any of the mentioned attributes. Also in an era where “love” is a swipe away and hookups are on your palms, choosing a partner becomes as easy as looking at a picture or reading a bio. If we do not like we just swipe and move on, because we know there is another one. In previous years during the times of our grandparents, they had less technological advancement as compared to what we have and enjoy now.  Life was tough and many of our grandparent’s had to make extra efforts for the things we have so easily today. One would think that a positive growth in technology and science would have a directly proportional growth to relationships today. On the contrary, the relationship has been inversely proportional. As times pass and science makes more discoveries that makes life seemingly better, our relationships have suffered and strained more than they were in the past.

stay tuned for the second part. Read, share and follow for more


Dear readers,

I hope you all are faring well. It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all yet another interesting blog today.

Yesterday was Mother’s day and many of us took our time to remember our Mother’s and pay homage to them. Should I decide to write about my Mother here, I guess I’ll have to make series upon series as one blog cannot do justice to her. Nevertheless I shall try to at least say a few words before linking up to our general topic of Mothers. My mum as I remember her when I was a kid, is a disciplinarian. She made it clear that first I was her child and then friend. Considering the times we live in now, I feel this aspect of motherhood is slowly being lost. I feel sad at some videos I see online, when I see the way some mothers are treated poorly.

My Mum made it clear to me that mediocrity wasn’t an option, you either go big or go home. In fact I remember her saying that whatever you do, good or bad, be the best at it. Not that she encouraged me to be bad, however her philosophy was “ If you are going to go down the bad road, knowing the consequences of your action then you better be the baddest that ever lived.” She made me see that excuses were for the weak, and weakness was not in my DNA, blood or family line. She stood tall herself and wasn’t the one to wait on help. My mum, a multi-talented woman also showed me that sometimes, success is not a one way road but a multi lane high way. I learnt to multi task, and maintain composure while doing so from her.

Though weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning! To many this is just a line in the Psalm, but to me it was an armor to go through life. Unlike the present day generation, my mum emphasized that to win I had to stand out, and standing out meant exactly that. She pointed out that getting on the treadmill of life wasn’t the issue, however remaining on it was the point. To this day, I never worry about those who get on that treadmill before me in whatever area of their lives, because I know one thing for sure; you can never out run me. It is either the “treadmill of life stops or I run till I can’t run anymore”. I wish I could blend in things about my dad here as he also has the tenacity in him, however I’ll just have to wait till Father’s day. To this day, all I do is to make sure that her effort in my life is not in vain. Just like my dad, my mum always urged me to be better. Don’t settle for less when you can be more!  Improve yourself! Work Hard and Pray! These were some of her words as I grew up.

Those who know her, will say she is like a lioness; Fearless, strong and won’t hesitate to take down an entire pride of lions if any of her kids were in harm’s way. Just like the queen on a chess board, she is extremely powerful. In fact so powerful that many people see her in me. I am the product of the very best I must say and this has its price. Naturally people expect more from me, I have tried to live up to that, until recently when I realized besides God, my spiritual mentor and my mum, I really don’t worry myself anymore about people’s opinion. I can also say Happy Mother’s Day to you.

That been said, we should also know that besides our biological Mothers we have six other Mothers; making them seven in total. The Queen, The Nurse, The Cow, The Earth, The Spiritual Mentor’s Wife, the wife of a priest and one’s real mother; these are the seven types of Mother’s we have. The Queen has the major role of looking after not only her King, but the entire nation as well. To this day, the special place of a Queen in any Kingdom has been emphasized time and time again. We see this power come to life in the game of Chess, where the Queen piece moves around the board, as she pleases without restriction. The Nurse is the mother who delivers us at the time of birth. She helps our real mothers to bring us into this world using her knowledge of child birth and delivery. She also assists our real mothers in taking care of us when we are very tender. The Cow’s place as our mothers, though seriously abused today by money making industries, still cannot be overlooked. She takes but a few blades of grass and gives a lot of milk in return. She is practically one animal whose milk all animals can live off from. Every part of her body is fully functional and even her bile products help fertilize our soils as manure.

Mother Earth as fondly called by many is a Mother we cannot ignore. She holds us up every day without complain, she provides us with food, herbs and various kinds of natural resources. She gives us gems and treasures in the form of precious stones and minerals. In fact her body flows with rivers and oceans that help sustain our lives. She nourishes all the other mothers who in turn nourish us, and thus is very sacred. The Wife of the Spiritual mentor or guide is also a mother, because she does a great service of looking after the spiritual guide who helps us in our spiritual growth. In other words she can also be our spiritual mentor.  The wife of a Priest is a mother and looks after not just the priest but everyone who comes to the priest for help. Her blessings and good wishes are just like those of the priest in our life.

Last but not least is our biological mother who gives us life and carries us for nine months in her womb. We cannot imagine how much pain and sacrifice she goes through just to see us grow and survive in life. Her service is selfless and pure. No one can repay her or be like her. Even gods revere her position and honour her existence. We all owe our mothers a life time of gratitude.

Till next week, do read, share and follow for more blogs. Happy Mother’s day!